He makes most of his own decisions now. There are not always the right ones. That is to be expected; he is a teenager (an early teen at that).
One of the decisions he made this week, actually hurts my heart.
He is too big for me to just fix it. He has to learn to do that for himself. It is hard as a Mom to stand by and watch him make a poor choice and know it is a poor choice.
But intervening would be so much worse. If I intervened, then he would learn nothing. I am just waiting for a window to open, an opportunity to hint around that there are other ways to do things that maybe don't hurt. And hopefully next time, he will make a better decision.