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Raising a Boy

I am raising a boy. I want him to be successful. Do well in school. Get a good job. Do well in sports. Be happy. But most of all I want him to be a nice person.

He makes most of his own decisions now. There are not always the right ones. That is to be expected; he is a teenager (an early teen at that).

One of the decisions he made this week, actually hurts my heart.

He is too big for me to just fix it. He has to learn to do that for himself. It is hard as a Mom to stand by and watch him make a poor choice and know it is a poor choice.

But intervening would be so much worse. If I intervened, then he would learn nothing.  I am just waiting for a window to open, an opportunity to hint around that there are other ways to do things that maybe don't hurt. And hopefully next time, he will make a better decision.

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  1. Ooooh, Pam....'Momming' is so hard! Wish there was a manual. But you're right, life's lessons are best learned by making your own decisions, good or bad. I think you must be doing it right, 'cause Jake seems like a smart guy and a good person. Hang in there....

    deb t.

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  2. Thanks Deb! He opened the whole door last night and we had a very hard talk. It is so hard when you want to make your point but not crush their underdeveloped egos.

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