Thursday, October 7, 2010

Life Lessons

I would like to start this post by saying I believe in a higher power. I call my higher power God, but I recognize and honor that you may have a different name for your higher power. I am probably less religious than many would like but I think I am more spiritual.

So with that said, I believe there is a purpose to our experiences.  I strongly believe God puts us through experiences to learn life lessons we are suppose to know or will need later in our lives. Faith is needed to believe this because it isn't always obvious what that lesson is or when it will be needed. We actually may never even know that we served the purpose because we never know how we will touch another persons life. Beyond faith, the only other thing needed to learn your life experiences is openness. Openness to learn something about yourself.  Obviously, some of us are a little more stubborn and refuse to be open to learning life lessons. These stubborn friends of ours end up repeating life experiences over and over.

In 1998, I separated from my first husband. Experiencing an unsuccessful marriage is a painful and overwhelming experience. It would have been so easy to focus on that hurt or to spend my time blaming my ex-husband for a variety of things. But blame and hurt can side rail a person from learning life lessons. I had to spend time focused on myself and asking the hard questions:  "what was my role in this?",  "what can I do differently?", "what are my shortcomings?"  Through it all, I learned a lot and I get to carry that knowledge with me. One of my biggest lessons learned is to not give away my power. I may not be able to control other people but I can control myself. And when I am in control of me, I have more control over the situation.

I do not not know why God has me on this journey. I have refused to spend any time being angry at God because I have Cancer.  At this point, I can not control the fact that I have Cancer. Instead, I am focusing on what I can control. I can control my attitude. I can control my diet.  I will not spend any time fretting about what I can not control. After all, I learned that life lesson several years ago when getting divorced.  And maybe one day soon, the purpose of this journey will be revealed to me. 

So I say, it is time to stop blaming. It is time to stop walking around angry. It is time to stop denying that there is something wrong. It is time for self reflection. It is time for action.Learn your life lessons.


  1. I love reading your blog Pam... The wisdom you offer is refreshing and your strength is an inspiration! love, Melissa

  2. Pamela,
    I loved your Life Lessons even though I didn't "blog" on your site. Your words of wisdom were good for everyone to read. My book came about in the same way that you're doing your "blogs" now; I e-mailed friends and family members every few days starting off with "You'll never believe what happened today." I did that often enough that I started hearing that I needed to put all of those e-mails into book form. If blogging had been popular then, my book may never have been published. I check your blog every day to see if you have posted and enjoy them so much; I also say a prayer every morning at the same time for you. You are a trooper, and I am privileged to have been able to get to know you through Lori.
    Sharon Fieker Cummins October 10 at 2:08pm