The Tale of SassyShoeDiva and KCBikerGuy

This may sound like a commercial but I have to admit, I met my husband on Match.com.

my Pinterest inspired anniversary photo!

The year was 2005. I had been a single mom since 1998 and I was ready to share my life with someone. But, being a single mom, my only interaction was with people at work. (Have I told you all I am social worker? Which means I work with mostly women!) I was done with bar scene. I did not have an endless supply of single friends to introduce me to their single friends. And to top if off, the pizza delivery guys were just too young for me.

So, I put an ad on Match.com. Online I became SassyShoeDiva. My first night I did a quick search of men who lived within 10 miles on my home and I found KCHarleyGuy. I winked at him. The next day, he emailed me. But so did a lot of other men. It was kinda overwhelming. But this one stood out. We spent a lot of time chatting, emailing, and talking on the phone.

KCHarleyGuy's bike. Taken at the first bike rally we attended as a couple,
three months of dating

Sassy Shoe Diva and KCHarleyGuy had their first date on a Thursday. He melted my heart the minute I opened the door. He had these massive big arms. And these soft brown eyes. He picked me up on his Harley and we went out for ice cream. I had never been on a motorcycle before. He had to tell me to change my shoes. I did not even own a pair of tennis shoes at this point! He was not happy about the cropped pants I was wearing but we compromised. I found a pair of closed toe shoes with minimal heel and I got to keep the cropped pants as long as I wore a jacket.

KCBikerGuy's hibiscus plants. This is just like the flower he gave me on our date.

When we got to the ice cream shop, he opened his side saddle and handed me a gorgeous bright yellow hibiscus flower he had grown himself. He melted my heart again! We stayed up so late talking. He was so comfortable! That night he "left" behind his t-shirt. (Oh, this is not an x-rated story, he was wearing a long sleeved shirt over his short sleeved short for riding!) I knew that was a good sign that he wanted to see me again as much as I wanted to see him.

Two days after our first date, we randomly ran into each other at my local Quick Trip (convenience store). I found out it was his Quick Trip too. We lived less than 3 miles from each other, visited the same Quick Trip all the time, and met each other on Match.com!! How funny was that! That day, at Quick Trip, he gave me a hug and said, "We are going to have fun together." I walked away thinking, "yes, we are!"

That weekend, he was out of town on a bike ride. I had multiple dates with other men from Match. None of them measured up to KCHarleyGuy. He called me when he got home from his bike ride. And he kept calling me. By the end of the next week, we were dating. We tease each other that was just a few months ago. But truth be told, it was six years ago.

We both signed up for three months of Match.com. We both cancelled after the first month.

SassyShoeDiva married KCHarley Guy in 2007. He continues to melt my heart.

Today we celebrated our fourth wedding anniversary. Sometime during my chemotherapy my fingers changed. I could no longer wear my wedding band/engagement ring. So, I told KCHarleyGuy that the only thing I wanted for our anniversary was to be able to wear my rings again. He took me back to our Jeweler and paid for a re-sizing and for the rhodium plating to be replaced. My rings now fit and are just as sparkly as the day he gave them to me.

When we got married, we picked out a ring of Titanium for him. It looked cool but it was the wrong size and kept falling off of his finger. So, it ended up hanging on my jewelry stand. In addition to working on my rings, we also purchased him a brand new white gold simple band. One that fits! He promises to look married to me from here forward.

Thank you KCHarleyGuy! You have completed my life. You are my voice of reason to my reactionary self. You let me fly as high as I want to but pull me back down when I need it the most. You are my rock.

My Weekend Project: A PVC Camping Lamp Post and Flag Holder

I have seen a few of these around campsites and I knew I would like to have one. The only problem that I had is The Husband. He already thinks we drag too much stuff with us when we go camping and if I had told him my desire to have a PVC Camping Light Pole he would have shut it down quickly! So, that leaves a girl with only one choice: Figure out how to do it by herself. I did some internet searching and found a few road maps on RV forums. They seemed easy enough! I visited the local hardware store for the supplies: An exterior post lantern light 2 inch PVC pipe (I used 5 feet but had to purchase a 10 foot piece) A 3 inch toilet flange A 3 inch to 2 inch Reducer PVC Glue A 12 foot electric cord kit 2 - 3/4 inch PVC Caps I also used a few supplies we already had on hand: White Spray Paint 3 1/2 foot - 3/4 inch PVC Pipe Drill Bits (1 inch and 1/2 inch) Tent Stakes The first step was preparing the lantern light. I could only find black i

Liver Cheese: A Family Tradition

Today is an anniversary date. One of those dates you wish you did not have to remember but there is no way you can forget. Fifteen years ago today,two days after his birthday, my father died of lung cancer. He was a lifelong smoker and his cancer was aggressive. His battle was short. He fought for six short months after his diagnosis. He knew the chemo was not working and that his time was limited. When he came to this realization he became the best dad in the world. In the days before my father's passing, my family shared some memorable moments. One of those moments centers around the deli meat: Liver Cheese.I would not be surprised if you have never heard of it, or even never tasted it. But I was raised on it as it was one of my Dad's favorite things. What is it? Well, it is a German food that is actually called Leberkase. It is bacon, corned beef, pork, and onion that is ground together and baked. It comes with a

Tonsillectomy (Warning Photos!)

The Short Chic came down with a pretty nasty case of strep throat back in April. So, when The Boy started complaining about his throat hurting about 12 days later, I was pretty confident that he had inherited his sister's strep. Instead, The Boy was diagnosed with a peritonsillar abscess growing on his right tonsil. We had to immediately see an ENT Physician who took a needle and drained the abscess. He removed about 5.5 cc of puss from The Boys throat.and then told us that once you have a peritonsillar abscess you were high risk to keep getting them. The Boy's tonsils were now compromised and needed to be removed. We were told to plan for a two week recovery so we worked a surgery into our summer plans. Between family vacations, summer sports, and the beginning of school The Boy had his second surgery. A tonsillectomy. Pre-surgery prepping went well. It must be nice to be young and have healthy veins for an IV! The Boy had lots of pre-surgery visitors. My

HeidiOctober 21, 2011 at 7:16 AM
I love your story, Pamela! Happy anniversary to you guys!!!
MelisaOctober 21, 2011 at 7:17 AM
Congratulations!! Such a sweet story!!
TerriOctober 21, 2011 at 7:17 AM
Love your story. I never knew how you met. You should be on a commercial.
JodiOctober 21, 2011 at 7:17 AM
I love your story!
DianaOctober 21, 2011 at 7:18 AM
I love your story and of course it made me cry but believe it or not, the best is YET to come! Fly as high as you want :) xoxo

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